Do You Have The Feeling That Your Marriage Is Falling Apart?

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

This happens for a variety of reasons. Some people simply have their head in the sand and refuse to acknowledge how bad things really are, for example. Living in a state of denial is not as uncommon as you would think, either.

It goes without saying that a lot of married couples will try to work through the tough times for a number of reasons. However, some people who are involved in a marriage that is simply not good for them will often have a hard time even realizing it.

As a matter of fact, it is not all that uncommon for someone who came from a broken home or a situation where their parents were always fighting to fall into a pattern of the same behavior. Because this type of action seems normal, it is difficult for them to understand that what they are going through is not necessarily healthy.

However, remember that you deserve to be happy. Reach out and get help as soon as possible. A counselor may be the answer that you are looking for. As a neutral party, he or she can help you and your spouse talk through your problems. They can also assist you as you seek solutions.

There are a few characteristics of bad marriages. These include a lack of intimacy and affection and strained communication. In very serious cases, there could also be verbal or physical abuse. If you find that you never want to go home after work, there is probably an issue with your marriage. Communication is key. If you don't speak to one another about what is transpiring, there is no way you are going to fix the situation.

People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.

The worst thing that you can do if there are any signs that you are in a bad marriage is falling into a state of denial. No matter how sacred you feel the bond of marriage is, you are not going to be doing either of you justice by trying to keep the pieces of your relationship from falling apart.

If you have gone to counseling and you still do not see any good results coming out of it, then the chances are that you are holding onto something that may be too far gone to repair.

Research has shown that couples in a bad marriage suffer more from poor health because of the additional stress. That is a danger. There is a higher risk of heart disease, depression, eating disorders and other ailments because they are constantly under stress and in an unhappy state. It can negatively affect a person's immune system and the body's ability to resist illnesses and disease.

If it means letting go of the marriage for the sake of your children as well as your sanity, then you may just find that everyone involved will be much happier in the long run. When you come to this realization, you need to remember that the dissolution of your marriage is nothing that you need to be ashamed about, especially if you worked hard to try and keep it together.




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