Do You Need Relationship Help In Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Almost all marriages need help at one time or another in order to maintain a good relationship. Any marriage that doesn't have a good relationship will probably not last for long. Even if the union does happen to last somehow, the couples are usually not content and happy.

You might be asking yourself, what is the difference between a relationship and a marriage? A marriage is the bond that is formed in holy matrimony between two people. In the eyes of the law and man they are one. They can only be separated by divorce or death.

In a relationship, you have a friendship that you likely began well before marriage and you will continue to grow and deepen your friendship as long as time goes on. Ideally, this began before you even tied the knot.

If you're hearing cues from others that you need help, your marriage likely does. For instance, do you go to functions without your spouse? If so, how often? Do you make excuses for him or her? Are they true reasons or are you just being polite?

When you are together, you'll be criticizing or complaining about little things that are actually pretty irrelevant. You'll go to one extreme or the other and sit together, but rarely talk, Even if someone does speak, it's not really that interesting to the other person.

More signs of a relationship in decline are lack of interest in the bedroom. While both of you may be young and attractive, the spark has gone out and one of you may even fantasize about others.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off to the other partner when carried to the extreme. The jealous person will withdraw and the other person will feel as if the one that is jealous is being unfaithful. The other partner will then hold back as they feel cheated upon. It's a vicious circle that is hard to break.

Avoid exaggeration and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is still an issue, seek help immediately. If your relationship is going to survive, you must curtail jealousy.

Debt is another culprit that is responsible for relationship issues. Not having money can be serious. If one partner overspends constantly, it can cause a huge rift in the relationship.

Living within a budget can actually save a relationship. Too much debt can put a serious strain on the marriage. When either spouse constantly overspends and they are drowning in a sea of debt, then the marriage will also begin to sink.

All marriages run into problems at some time or another. Disagreements and conflicts are going to occur. They are to be expected. However, from time to time, just make sure you take a look at your relationship to make sure you and your spouse are happy with where you are. If any adjustments need to be made, just make them and keep moving forward.




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